Teenage daughter dating older orthodoxy on dating
I don’t know why he would be interested in a girl this young. He will introduce her to drugs and alcohol prematurely. Your daughter may be ready to date a guy who is more mature than high school guys, or maybe she just has more in common with him than she does with guys her age.
While there is evidence that girls dating older guys are more likely to face relationship violence and to abuse substances, relationships are not statistics.
It is too complicated a social situation for a child to navigate.
Also, tell her how beautiful and smart she is everyday because girls need to hear that, especially from their dad or some sort of male figure. Whatever you do, support her decisions and don't criticize. Only support, this doesn't mean just for boys, try to support her in other interests that you think are appropriate in hopes that she will get more focused on music lessons or sports than on the guy.
Leaving high school to move away from home and attend college where my older boyfriend followed right behind me and made very sure I was never more than two steps away and nothing my mother did could ever stop that. There are a million other girls who have stories just like mine who were just as pretty and just as sneaky and who were just as sad.
Who just wanted the attention of someone, usually someone who made them feel more mature than they actually were. And it’s easy for me to say this now because right now she is ice skates and coloring books and yes, still dolls and I will never let an older man, much less a much older man come near her.
My daughter told me yesterday that she has been dating, a 16 year old boy who is gothic and skips school, for months now. What should I say about this interesting relationship?
Thanks for the help, Virginia from Atlanta, GATell her why people date.
You have three things to consider: the guy, outside sources and your daughter in order to assess whether the relationship is dangerous for her, while still giving her the space she needs. Don’t pull out your shotgun or start an interrogation. Show respect for her decision through your interest in her thoughts about him.